I had an argument with my husband Arnold the other day. He was heading out the door to drive off somewhere he said was “important.” I needed him to take our son Durbin to his parent’s house so they could watch him while we went on a “Christmas Shopping Date” that night.
“What do you mean ‘important’!? You said you would take the boy to Grammy’s house!” I yelled, a bit peeved that he could be so insensitive.
He refused to give me the details, so I finally figured out it had something to do with getting me a gift. But I was still angry since I was covered from top to bottom with holiday chores. I wanted nothing to do with his excuses.
Eventually I won. He stayed and took Durbin to Grammy’s.
That night we had a very nice trip to the local mall to look at Christmas lights and pick our more gifts for relatives and friends. Then he sprung the surprise on me at a local coffee shop . . . a beautiful 14 carat gold necklace to celebrate our sixth wedding anniversary! I had forgotten . . . !!
I felt both ashamed and embarrassed. The look in his eyes told me everything I needed to know . . . that it didn’t matter what I said or did. He still loves me, no matter what! He had, in fact, driven Durbin over to his parents’ house, then sped to the store to pick up my necklace. It was out of his way, but he was determined to surprise me . . . and he did!
With a growing family, and holidays being so hectic, remembering our wedding date in early December has become more and more difficult. This year I forgot. He didn’t. The best anniversary gift I ever received – more than the gold necklace – was his commitment to remembering. And I love him now more than ever.
It’s not about being right or wrong. Men (at least as far as women are concerned) are ALWAYS wrong! It takes a special man to understand that, and to go with the punches . . . to love his wife or girlfriend no matter what she is feeling.
When that happens, guess what . . . the man ALSO gets to win!
Arnold found that out later